I Am That Girl – St. Joseph, MO Chapter

on a mission to turn self-doubt in to self-love, to use our voices, to share our truths, to love others, and to leave this world better than we found it!

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MARCH 9 Meeting 5: Friendship Foundations

Location: Hazel’s Coffee – 4001 Frederick Ave, St Joseph, MO 64506
Time: 6:30-830

Friendships are the basis of our social lives, trust, love and confidence. Come join us to explore the depths of friendship and the importance it holds to each person! 
In the meantime, mull over these disscusion topics!

 How did you choose your friends?

 What traits do you admire most in your friends? Why do those traits matter to you?

 What do you look for in a new friend?

How have your friends defined you? Is that good or bad?

 Are there subjects that you don’t discuss with your friends? Why?

 What’s the biggest challenge you’ve faced in a friendship and how did you handle


 How have your friendships made you better?


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Meeting 4: Flaunt Your Flaws

Flaws. We all have them. Some we are born with, others we conger up in our head after an event, situation, or conversation that brought them to the surface. I was tired of hiding mine. Tired of hiding them while living my day to day life hoping one day someone wouldn’t expose one of my flaws.  It was exhausting.

Then I stumbled across a short film titled Selfie that was created in partnership with the Sundance Institute to launch Dove’s #BeautyIs campaign. Was this brilliant marketing gimmick just what I needed to get over my flaws? I went for it.

Long story short, I took the challenge and it was exactly what I needed to get over my flaws. My turn was coming to host the next meeting and I knew what I wanted to do. I wanted to empower our IATG members just as Dove had empowered me. (I hope to blog the full story on my [not yet created] personal blog soon). Thus the topic of Flaunt Your Flaws was chosen and off went the invite!

I wasn’t sure how I was going to pull it off but I had all kinds of ideas and thoughts running through my head. But the universe works in funny ways. After the topic was posted, our IATG members began to post quotes (our favorite thing to share), articles, videos, and pictures in our private Facebook group to get some early discussions started. I was beyond thrilled! I knew I picked a great topic if they were already researching and brainstorming.

Then with such perfect timing (one day before our meeting), a member posted a little gem she had stumbled across on tiny buddha called How to Use Your Flaws as Creative Inspiration. It was almost everything I had in my mind for our meeting, nicely typed out screaming to be used for our agenda.


Ok now that I have rambled on to let you know the background of this topic, I know you are dying to know how the meeting went. That’s why you are reading this blog? Right?

Our meeting was a little small, but I think it worked out for the better. It gave each person time to get some individual feedback and encouragement. One member even brought delicious homemade treats for all of us to share (less people at this meeting, less sharing of the food we all had to do, another plus).

We had two new members so we started off explaining the what IATG was all about. Then we started off as usual; declaring ourselves badasses! We went around our circle sharing “I am a badass because ______” and gave our specifics.  Our new members were a little reluctant to gloat about themselves (don’t worry it is a common problem).  Then one declared she was a badass because she came to this meeting. Yes indeed, it does take a badass to come to your first meeting alone and not knowing anyone.

The next part of the meeting I knew was going to be difficult for our members, because as girls we all love to talk. The first 10-15 minutes of this meeting required no talking. Everyone picked out colored paper and markers and I set a timer. This was the first meeting where we not only had to be quiet, but it was also the first meeting art supplies we involved.

For three minutes we wrote down all the flaws (physical and/or mental) that we liked about ourselves. We breezed through those three minutes. Next, still without talking, we had to write all the flaws we did not like about ourselves. This was a bit of a challenge and the three minutes seemed like an eternity.

Now it was time to get the group involved as a whole. We silently passed around folded papers. Each paper had a persons name on it and as received each paper we opened it up and wrote down some “flaws” we liked about that person. Then folded the paper up and passed it to the left. Once the papers went around in a full circle, they were placed in the middle of our circle (with no peeking at our own).

With a sigh of relief it was time to talk! Only now no one wanted to discuss what they had spilled out all over their own paper. After some awkward silence, someone volunteered to go first. We each took turns talking about our good and bad flaws that we had written down. Why we like them and why we were ashamed of them or didn’t like them.

Then as if we couldn’t handle the suspense any longer we got to peek at our papers that other girls filled out for us. After we each had time to read over and digest the kind words on our paper, it was time to discuss again. There seemed to be a theme that some of us who were “faking” a behavior to hide a flaw, other people admired our it without even knowing it was fake.

Flaw List 2

Next it was time for challenges. We do not call them homework because they are not required. We call them challenges to get everyone out of their comfort zone and challenge them to become THAT GIRL.  The challenge was simple. The challenge was our meeting topic. Challenge yourself to flaunt your flaws. Post a picture on social media, do some art, write a blog, find a friend who has a flaw you admire and make them your mentor. The possibilities are endless.

I also had a few members reach out to me, making it a secrete mission to help another member get over one of their flaws. Amazing! We truly are building a sisterhood (some armed with Sticky Notes). The group members inspire me everyday and it reassures Lexi and my hard work for our is not going unnoticed.



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Meeting 4: February 19th

Meeting Topic : Flaunt Your Flaws!
Time: 6:45 – 8:45
Place: TBD
Facebook event page: https://www.facebook.com/events/679769178732538/
Hello ladies! This is our 4th official meeting for the local Lady’s group I AM THAT GIRL!

The actually meeting takes about an hour and half, but as women we all like to stay behind and chat. Do not feel obligated to stay the entire time.

Please RSVP to the event!

However, when doing so, please keep in mind this group is suitable for ages 16+, and we do not encourage you to bring your children unless they are 16+ and would like to participate.

The only exception is if you have a tiny nursling, because breastfeeding mommas are badasses!

If you’re unable to make it to this meeting, that’s AOK! We will be holding meetings bi-weekly on Wednesdays (subject to change).

A global community, a support system, and a movement of Ladies turning self-doubt into self-love .

THAT GIRL resides in all of us; all ages, ethnicity, classes and religions.

THAT GIRL is the best version of each of us. She’s a kind, truth-teller, who stands for what she believes in. While she is forever a work in progress, she seeks to be confident in her own skin and inspires others to do the same.


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Meeting 3: Greet the New Year with Gumption!

(note, all blue links take you somewhere wonderful!)

Ah, it’s nice to be back, typing something worthwhile!
We’ve had a lot going on, from the comfort of our own homes. I’m sure that sounds slightly absurd, but take my word for it. This past week our local news paper The News Press featured an article on the front of their “Life” section. That article just so happened to be about our I AM THAT GIRL Local Chapter! Emily and I had some nice words to say about the organization, and definitely wanted to get the word out about the new local chapter to our town. We took it into our own hands and asked the paper to be interested. They were. And apparently so was the public!


You’re interested too, right? No? Yes? You should be. So here’s the article!
The article is linked to this very blog, and has offered us 97 views in the last 4 days!! I’d say that’s something, when we were gained only just over 100 views in 3 months. We also received multiple emails from interested women in the area, and comments on this blog as well (check out our previous post!). Oh, and, we received an offer by phone for a more permanent and private meeting location that Emily and I will be scouting this coming week! Such a nice gesture. Lovely.

So, of course, this amazing press gave our IATG Local Chapter the opportunity to meet some new ladies at our coming meeting. Then…the snowpocalypse. Really. It snowed about 12″ the day before our meeting. How convenient. No doubt Emily and I were bummed, but looking for hope towards our town to plow every single street clean to give our participants the chance to come to the awesome meetings they’ve read about. Then, Emily, being the absolutely brilliant lady she is, mentioned having a Facebook Group Meeting if the weather was still bunk.  We took a small poll on this blog and on our Facebook invite, inquiring if anyone was able to get out of their drives. The request for a Facebook meeting was unanimous. We definitely had to figure out, and quick, how we were going to pull this off? New members expecting, seasoned members anxious for a meeting, and us, loving the good press but nervous as ever about this coming meeting, this equals a LOT on our shoulders.

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But you know what? WE DEFINITELY PULLED IT OFF. More than, over the top, pulled it off! How might you ask? Oh, videos, lots and lots of pre-recorded videos. The best part about the videos? Emily and I absolutely hate being on camera. I personally detest it. We pre-recorded an opening, our badass declaration, 4 discussion topics, our meeting challenge and a closing video. This definitely brought us in a more personal light to the ladies (especially those who haven’t personally met us yet.) We even had two of our  seasoned members submit a few videos. When it was all said and done 12 videos were posted.

And our members?! I have no other word better than to describe them, than MARVELOUS! Oh, maybe I do: Amazing, surprising, vulnerable, anxious, willing, stunning, incredible, humble, BADASS and fascinating. Yeah ladies, that’s you. Your participation in an online meeting was unstoppable. We tallied the comments, and in 2 hours, we posted 357 comments! That’s about 3 comments a minute. Beautiful! Where we lacked in personal interaction, we GAINED in participation. It’s a little strange to say this was our most successful meeting, but the ladies really opened up and let us into their lives this time around. It could be that we were all behind the comforts of our computer screens, but if you choose, prove us wrong at the next meeting 😉

When Emily and I realized how well this meeting was going we got an encouraging message from the Director of the I AM THAT GIRL Local Chapters, Kate Poppe.

Katie Message

THAT is one hell of a compliment we are incredibly thankful for.

Though we’ve had a slow start, the future of our group looks bright. Soon you may see flyers around town about our coming meetings, or some inspirational graffiti from our own gals! Our next meeting event will be posted to this blog and Facebook in no time! So keep your eyes peeled. Please, bring a friend next time so we can spread awesomeness like wildfire!

And remember: Girls don’t compete, girls EMPOWER!




February 5th Meeting : UPDATE (updated)

Hey lovely ladies! We are keeping an eye on the road conditions. We would hate to drive to Hazels and have no one show up, at the same time we would hate to have an online meeting and have no one attend.

If everyone who is 100% committed to a meeting tonight please comment below BEFORE 3pm on how your streets are and if you will be at Hazels tonight. If you cannot make it to Hazels tonight, but still want to be involved in the meeting please comment below if you can attend an online version of this meeting. The online version of this meeting will take place privately on Facebook, so all you will need an electronic device to access Facebook. We are also tossing around the idea of doing both tonight so no one gets left out. It just depends on all of your answers.

Commenting bellow you are committing to this meeting no matter what so we can help you find your inner gumption.

Looks like everyone wants to stay inside. And I don’t blame you!

We will be having our meeting right here on this Facebook event wall. It will include videos and lots of discussion from you all. This will be our first time trying this out, but I think this will be the best format for us to conduct this meeting. So your participation is very important (as well as your patience). 

What we need from everyone: If you are a Maybe or a Invited and plan on attending this meeting from your home please change your invite status to Going by 6pm! If you are a going and will not be attending please decline the invite.

After 6pm all the Maybes and Invited will be kicked off of this invite and this invite will be switched to private. That way it will be a private place for us all to open up and share. The meeting will be starting promptly at 6:45 tonight! See you all then.

If you do not have Facebook, please reach out to us and we will share our meeting information with you.


February Meeting – Greet 2014 With Gumption

Join us for our next meeting!

Update: Ladies, we’re watching the next storm closely. On the 5th, we may be snowed into our houses. We’ll let you know ASAP if this meeting will be rescheduled! Join the Facebook invite to keep the most up to date on this meeting. 


(click the link to go to the Facebook invite)
Wednesday February 5, 2014 from 6:45-8:45
Hazels Coffee Company
4001 Frederick Ave, Saint Joseph, Missouri 64506
 Our topic for this meeting will be: Greet 2014 With Gumption!Gumption. It’s a great word that is rarely used. Gumption means “courage and confidence; guts and spunk; initiative and resourcefulness.” With the hopeful and fresh year of 2014 ahead of us, everyone can really learn something about their inner badassness.

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Meeting 2 – January 8th 2014 – Stop Apologizing for Who You Are – Loving Your Inner Badass

After a break for the holidays I AM THAT GIRL was ready to start off the new year, helping all our members find their inner badass. Recently I started dating myself and found who I truly am. I fell in love with how much of a badass I was hiding under my rock, and ran with it. Ever since this moment of epiphany, I have been a much happier person and couldn’t wait to empower the women around me. So it was a no brainer to me what the topic of this meeting was going to be: Stop Apologizing for Who You Are – Loving Your Inner Badass.

My mission, should I choose to accept it, is to find peace with exactly who and what I am. To take pride in my thoughts, my appearance, my talents, my flaws and to stop this incessant worrying that I can’t be loved as I am. —Anais Nin

Our meetings started off as usual; declaring ourselves badasses! We went around our circle sharing “I am a badass because ______” and gave our specifics. Unlike our first meeting, everyone was more than eager to gloat about themselves and we were all eager to listen. Not only did everyone respectively listen, they provided positive feedback to each and every one (which also led us to off topic discussions, but that’s okay, I didn’t let everyone veer off course too far).  Even two new members were excited to jump in and declare themselves badasses with little to no hesitation. I secretly was jumping up and down screaming inside, because this is just what our town needs. Women are starting to feel empowered, encouraged and safe enough through our group to declare their self-worth.

Now time for why everyone came to this meeting, to learn ways to love their inner badass. Everyone has one (yes, including you) you just have to find it and embrace it. Since we love open discussions in our meetings I decided to focus on a short blog article by Gala Darling called Radical Self Love Homework Assignments. This allowed plenty of time to talk, brain storm and encourage each other.

Not one single member was quiet during the open discussion. We focused on owning who we truly are. And stop lying to others around us. We have to stop apologizing for who we are, what we do and the way we want to live our life. Instead focus the energy on changing ourselves to fit in, to own who we are and what makes us happy. One member even shared how she used to change who she was depending on who she was around that eventually became a tangled web of lies that was exhausting to keep up with.

Do the things you used to talk about doing but never did. Know when to let go and when to hold on tight. Stop rushing. Don’t be intimidated to say it like it is. Stop apologizing all the time. Learn to say no, so your yes has some oomph. Spend time with the friends who lift you up, and cut loose the ones who bring you down. Stop giving your power away. Be more concerned with being interested than being interesting. Be old enough to appreciate your freedom, and young enough to enjoy it. Finally know who you are. -Kristin Armstrong

No meeting is complete without challenge assignments. They are not required, but they will challenge you to become THAT GIRL. I challenged everyone to take a selfie. In the selfie they need to own who they (however they want to depict that) and posting it on our local chapter page. (It is exclusive and you have to come to a meeting to get invited; just another perk of coming to our meetings!). I also challenged everyone to be confident in who they are. Don’t second guess their options with “I think” or “I could be wrong”, instead own who they are and what they believe.

I added our challenges we do for every meeting because they will help our group grow and inspire as many woman as possible. One is to bring a friend to the next meeting so our group can reach as many women as possible. And the other was to post Inspirational Graffiti whenever possible and share your experience in our group. Inspirational Graffiti is a way anonymously leave uplifting and inspirational messages all over town. I love doing it! It makes me feel like a Secret Santa spreading smiles to those who read my post-its.

1094964_1943740595595_1642298542_nAfter the challenges were handed out and everyone was free to leave a funny thing happened. Our little group was having too much fun to leave. It is awesome feeling to know that everyone was choosing to stay for a little bit and chat instead of running out the door. I cannot wait to see where the next meeting takes us and what challenges we can push inner badasses with.